A chat with Black Moms Connection founder Tanya Hayles

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Tanya Hayles, Founder, Black Moms Connection

When the boy child was 5 years old, he called me ‘Blackie’ and proudly told me that his friend from school told him that ‘Blackie’ was another word for Black people.  To say I was shocked, upset, angry was an understatement.

That moment, that time the boy child called my a racial slur, was my awakening.   Aside from the racial slur, this was the period when the boy child decided he didn’t want to be black, that he wanted blond straight hair. It was the time he would cry anytime I came near his head with a comb.  It was also the summer I had to explain to a crying six year old that no, he couldn’t have the toy gun that someone had bought him for his birthday, because a little boy named Tamir Rice had just been killed, playing with a toy gun in a park.  And, it was the summer that I was kicked out of a mainstream moms group because I was looking for support and asked if any other Black moms wanted to connect. Despite all this…it was the summer I found my village…Black Moms Connection.

In the season 2 finale of the Woke Mommy Chatter podcast, I chat with the founder of the Black Moms Connection group, Tanya Hayles about all things Black Motherhood….and Black Panther…just because.

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Dear Apple- no 12 white men in a room does not reflect diversity.

No. No no no no no no. Apple’s new VP of diversity and inclusion is All Lives Mattering her new role. She was on a panel discussing diversity and basically said that her focus will be on everyone and that you can have 12 white guys in a room and they will be diverse as well. Ok lady. Let’s take a breath.

No, 12 white guys in a room does not equal diversity. Of course you don’t need to be Einstein to understand that the human experience is a diverse one because we are all unique all come with different experiences, but when people complain about the lack of diversity in Silicon Valley, when you type in ‘black women’ in a google search and come up with pictures of poodle dogs, or sexually explicit images, that’s not because the 12 white men in the room are bringing their wealth of diverse experience to the job. That’s because there are 12 white men in a room and no other voices to counter act their biased BS.

I hate when people in roles like hers are to cowardly to say it like it is. If Apple felt that their current employee was in fact diverse, would they hire a VP of inclusion and diversity? Focus on the issue. There IS a diversity problem in Silicon Valley. It’s dominated by white, Indian and Asian men. What about everyone else? That should be the focus for Apple…not placating white men for their valued diverse experience. Please.

https://qz.com/1097425/apples-first-ever-vp-of-diversity-and-inclusion-says-she-focuses-on-everyone-not-just-minorities/